I have never mastered the art of letting a man down easy and I constantly find myself in the situation of a guy liking me, I do NOT like him yet he won’t leave me alone. Maybe I’m just too nice cause it happens allllll the time. That’s kind of ironic though considering my-not-so-secret desire for the next love of my life to manifest himself. In the meantime though, all I get are a bunch of guys I’m not compatible with.
When I was in highschool, within reason, I would date ANY guy. Most of the guys I actually liked, but there were some who fed my incessant desire for attention (now that I’m older and mostly past that stage, I can call it what it is).
But I don’t want that in my life anymore. I don’t want to be with a guy who I don’t like just as I don’t want to be with a guy who doesn’t like me. That part is easy though. I’ve liked a few guys in the past year or two who didn’t like me back for whatever reason (more on these disasters later, lol) so I’ve definitely been on that side of the coin. I am a case study in “He’s Just Not that Into You.” The author may as well have dedicated that book to me.
But maybe that’s the problem.
The number one and most eye-opening sign: He’s Just Not That Into You if he’s not calling you. It’s cut-and-dry. If he’s not calling you it’s because he doesn’t like you. But why doesn’t this work in reverse? Why is it when I’m ignoring a guy’s calls/texts/BBM/Gchat/Tweets/FBmessage he STILL tries to contact me?
Dude, WHERE is this encouragement coming from????
It’s okay for guys to constantly try to contact me without even a response on my part, but if I do that to a guy, then I’m a psycho. Double standard. I’m not asking permission to be a bug-a-boo. I’m saying that society needs to start calling these guys “crazy” too because they are.
Normally, I just ignore a guy until he gets the hint, but that can take a while. There is a guy who used to text me a lot. I would answer him every now and then. Eventually I stopped responding. He still texted me every single day for an entire month — sometimes twice in one day. Ummmm get a clue.
I don’t know how to let a guy down easy. Is it better to just ignore him? Should I tell him flat-out? (This blew up in my face once. I finally mustered the courage to tell a guy I didn’t like him “like that”. He said he understood then an hour later texted me and asked to go on a date. I blocked his text messages.) I don’t want to be mean. I’m not trying to scar a dude or hurt his feelings….or lead him on. If I don’t like a guy, I just don’t like him. Guys don’t like me sometimes too. It’s life!
How in the world can a girl let a guy down easy?