Marriage seems to be the enemy of my generation and I don’t understand why. People are fine playing marriage, but when it comes to actually getting married a lot of people are inexplicably against it or they insist that people need to wait, wait, and wait some more to tie the knot.
I think – black people specifically – would do better to stop encouraging one another to delay marriage. Especially because people playing house are the problem — spreading kids, STDs and emotional wreckage around like peanut butter on a slice of bread.
Today, more than 70 percent of African-American children are born to unwed mothers. In 2009, more than half of the 40-thousand people in the US diagnosed with HIV were black.
How backward is our society?
I’m just over it.
I’m over my peers having sex for sport with an unthinkable amount of partners (with and without protection) yet looking down their nose at me as if I’m the one making the mistakes here.
I’m over people saying I shouldn’t marry a guy before having sex with him. Sex in a dating relationship is artificial closeness. Too often it just glosses over real, glaring issues and causes two people to remain together way longer than they should because sex has completely clouded their judgment.
I’m over people saying I should live with a guy before I commit to marrying him. Your longtime, live-in boyfriend balks at the idea of marrying you (unless he is discussing some far off future along with owning a Bugatti and being president of the United States) yet my choices are a #FAIL?
I’m over people saying I’m too young to get married yet inviting me to their 17-year-old niece’s baby shower.
I’m over people talking about “black love” but showcasing people who just live together and/or have kids together. That’s not love to me. When did what we used to be embarrassed by become something we aspire toward?
I’m just over it.
You don’t believe in marriage? Okay.
Well I don’t believe there is any alternative to marriage — except shacking up, single motherhood (or abortions), emotional attachments, un-marriable men, or being alone for the rest of your life. And I don’t believe in any of those things.
I believe in love and in honor and in fidelity and in commitment. I believe in finding that person you want to be with for the rest of your life…and marrying him.