What do you do when you’re waiting?
When you’ve been waiting
When you feel like you can’t wait another minute but you have to because there is nothing else to do while you wait…except wait.
Some things in life come really easy. And other things take time. It’s frustrating when something you think will come easy actually ends up taking a lot of time. What happens then?
What happens when you have so much hope and expectation yet come up empty handed again and again? How do you maintain that hope? Do you try and manage expectations? Is it even possible to avoid disappointment when you want something bad enough and don’t get it?
I don’t know the answers, but I do know that waiting isn’t necessarily that bad.
Because to wait is to remain actively involved in your breakthrough.
You’re only “waiting” if you’re still believing. If you didn’t believe you will have what you’re hoping for, then you wouldn’t be waiting. You would have given up hope.
In fact, the Bible tells us that faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not yet seen. So, when you’re waiting it seems you have nothing, but in actuality if you’re still waiting and still believing then you still have faith. When faith is all you have, it’s something. It’s the substance.
When we keep the faith, we know that we will soon have what we’re waiting for.
So, in that spirit, the only thing I’ve found helpful and productive while waiting is to be thankful. To be thankful for the place I am in right now.
Although I am hoping to go from here to there as soon as possible, in this moment right here, right now there is something to be thankful for. Every single thing has its upsides and downsides. You just have to focus on the upsides and sometimes you can even create an upside simply by looking for it. And while you’re waiting for things to turn, you may as well make the most of the moment you’re in right now because you’ll never have this moment again.
I also know that when you’re waiting, you will see others easily receiving what you’re waiting for. In those times, at least pretend to be happy for those people because your time will come and – when it does – there will be others who will at least pretend to be happy for you.
So while we’re waiting
Let’s be thankful for what ever we can find to be thankful for and also be happy for others.
You have so much wisdom. For being so open and honest, I’m so grateful.
I came across your blog last year when I was in a really bad relationship. Just reading through your posts from years ago and comparing it to where you were at the time(last year) gave me the courage, resolve to walk away, your earlier post echoed my own fears and seeing how your story unfolded just gave me so much hope.
So tonight I was in a bad space again, for different reasons (it’s 3am in South Africa, I have lectures in 5 hours and I’ve been crying myself to sleep this whole weekend) so I came here looking for hope and then I found this❤
So all of this to say, thank you. I hope you go on to touch more lives